She said yes on a Sunday He is a Singaporean she met at the void deck two Christmases ago. She is on a Work Permit, folding someone else's laundry six days a week, and for one afternoon none of that mattered. Then the group chat lit up, and somewhere between the crying emojis a tita asked the question that stopped her cold: "Alam ba ng MOM mo?"
That question is the whole reason this guide exists. Getting married here is not one process. It is up to three, and which ones apply to you depend on who is standing next to you at the altar. Get the order wrong and you can lose your wedding date, or worse, your pass. So before you book anything, sit down with a kape and work out which of these three is yours.
First, who are you marrying?
There are two kinds of Filipino weddings in Singapore, and they run on different tracks.
The first is two Filipinos marrying each other. Maybe you both work here, maybe one of you flew in. Your track is the Singapore Registry of Marriages for the civil ceremony, then a report back home so the Philippines counts it, clean and short.
The second is a Filipino marrying a Singapore citizen or a permanent resident. If that Filipino holds a Work Permit, including our domestic workers, there is an office to clear before anything else, and it is not the church. It is the Ministry of Manpower. If instead you hold an Employment Pass or an S Pass, that step does not fall on you, and you can head straight for the Registry.
Find your track first. Everything below hangs on it.
If you are marrying a Singaporean or a PR, MOM comes first
This is the rule that catches so many of us off guard. If you hold a Work Permit, you must get MOM's approval before you marry a Singapore citizen or PR, and that holds true whether the wedding happens in Singapore or back in the Philippines, and whether it is civil, church, or customary. MOM spells this out on its own site (see the marriage and pregnancy rules for Work Permit holders at mom.gov.sg).
Read that twice if you are a kasambahay, because it lands hardest on our domestic workers. The approval rule follows you even after your Work Permit expires, if a Work Permit was your last pass here. Marrying without that approval can cost you your right to work in Singapore and can bar you from entering the country for a stretch. MOM says it decides within four weeks of getting your complete documents, so this is the step you start first, not the week before.
One more thing MOM ties to this, and it is worth planning around: under its rules, a Work Permit holder who is pregnant or gives birth in Singapore must already be married, with MOM's approval, to a Singapore citizen or PR. That is their condition, on their page, and it helps to know it before life moves faster than paperwork.
If both of you are Filipino, breathe out. This approval is about marrying a citizen or PR, so a kabayan-to-kabayan wedding does not need MOM to sign off. You go straight to the Registry.
The Singapore side: how ROM works
The civil marriage itself runs through the Registry of Marriages, and you handle most of it online before you ever show up in person.
At least one of you needs to have been in Singapore for 31 days in a row before you submit the marriage application, and ROM notes you can clock those 31 days in a single visit, not counting the day you landed. You submit the application at least 21 days before the date you want to marry. A few days before the ceremony, between one and 14 days out, you both attend a Verification of Documents appointment where ROM checks your papers and hears your declarations. You bring two witnesses on the day, each of them 21 or older.
The money is where being foreigners shows. If neither of you is a citizen or PR, the marriage licence runs S$380. For a couple where one is a citizen or PR, it drops to S$42. Those figures sit on ROM's official fee list at marriage.gov.sg, and they are the ones to plan against.
Age matters as well: both of you need to be 21 in most cases. If one of you is between 18 and 21, you will need a parent or guardian's written consent, a heavier process. ROM also asks some foreign couples to show a certificate that they are free to marry, so check its current document list for your situation rather than assuming, and ask the embassy whether you need a legal-capacity document on the Philippine side.
If you are both Filipino, the embassy can marry you too
There is a second door for two Filipinos who want the ceremony itself done under Philippine law. The Philippine Embassy in Singapore can solemnise a marriage between two Filipino citizens who are both free to marry.
That route asks for more from home. You bring your birth certificates and your CENOMAR, each one apostilled by the DFA, plus your passports and two witnesses aged 21 or older. The embassy publishes your intended marriage for ten days before it sets the ceremony date, so this is not a same-week affair. The embassy charges its own fee for solemnising (its consular fee list shows an S$84 solemnisation fee, with other charges possible on top), so confirm the full current cost on the embassy site before you commit. For many couples the Registry route is simpler, and if you want to be married as Filipinos, under Filipino law, this door is open.
The part everyone forgets: telling the Philippines
You married in Singapore. In the eyes of your barangay, your PSA record, your future passport, nothing has happened yet. This is the step people skip, and it comes back to bite when a wife tries to renew her passport under her married name, or a couple needs a PSA marriage certificate for a visa or a benefit and there is nothing on file.
The fix is the Report of Marriage. Any Filipino who marries abroad files it with the embassy so the marriage flows back into Philippine civil records. In Singapore the embassy charges S$35 for it, a fee that took effect in April 2024. You hand in the report form together with your Singapore marriage certificate and your passports, and the embassy sends the record on to the DFA and the civil registrar back home. Do it soon after the wedding while the certificate is fresh and you both still have the day's paperwork in one folder.
If your name changes after the wedding, that Report of Marriage is also what lets you update your Philippine passport later, so keep the receipt and the annotated certificate somewhere safe. Our guide on renewing your Philippine passport in Singapore walks through the name-change side of that.
What may change, and where to check
Fees and forms move. ROM adjusts its charges, the embassy revises its consular fees now and then, and MOM updates its conditions. The numbers here are current as of July 2026, and before you pay anything, open the source: MOM for the marriage-approval rule, marriage.gov.sg for the Registry steps and fees, and the Philippine Embassy for solemnisation and the Report of Marriage. If a live page and an old forum post disagree, trust the live page.
If marrying is your path to staying together here, read up on what comes after the wedding too. Marrying a Singaporean or PR opens the door to a Long-Term Visit Pass, and our guide on bringing your family to Singapore covers the passes and the costs on the other side of "I do." For the wider map of what the embassy and MWO can help with, keep our guide to Philippine government services in Singapore handy.
Before you send the save-the-dates
Love does not need permission. The paperwork does. Sort your track first, clear MOM first if a Singaporean or PR is the one you are marrying, file the Report of Marriage before the certificate gathers dust, and the rest is cake. You have carried heavier things across this island than a stack of forms. Go get your day, kabayan. You have earned it.
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